Dating a convicted felon
When meeting someone new I always ask point blank "have you ever been arrested"? I know that not all felons are not bad people and am glad to see that not everyone is so judgemental on this site.Some people think that a felony automatically means horrible, violent crimes..that is not true. A friend and I had a conversation one day about everyone having a secret.As far as telling someone, I would want to know if someone I was going to be personally involved with had been convicted of a felony.That wasn't what I meant when I said "Why volunteer the information?But this was a poor kid from the wrong side of the tracks that got involved into something stupid. For very specific professions to become involved with a felon is simply not cool.
they also involve someone doing more than a year incarcerated... But, in my state, in my youth, mere possession of marijuana was a felony.
I wouldn't necessarily kick someone to the curb just because they made a mistake somewhere along the line.[Edited on 6/1/2008 AM] My second husband had been to prison twice for burglary of a building.
The fact that we broke up had absolutely nothing to do with this.
Like was mentioned up there...sometimes it is insider trading or an innocent mistake..something that a person never thought would get them in trouble....(maybe your friend told you they wouldn't get mad if you signed their name on a paper, then later turned on you, therefore getting a felony for forgery)example. I will bet that 99% of the people here have something about them that sounds bad on paper, but once you meet the person, you learn that it doesn't define them.
People make mistakes, but that doesn't make them bad. I try to take a look at what this person has done with their life..makes them the person they are today and what they have done with the lessons that have come their way and I base my decisions on those points rather than things that might end up in a negative column.Was someone my age picked up at a party rousting back in '76 with a joint? Did her old man walk out on her and a new baby and she wrote over 0 worth of hot checks to survive for a couple of months? What if you met someone, you really liked them, you got along, and at some point, they said, "Look. When I was in college, I was at a party and got really, really drunk. And on the way, I hit a car and the other driver died.